新托福独立写作题目：人际关系中应保持亲近还是疏离

　　新托福独立写作考试日期

　　2017年7月08日

　　重复16年8月21日的题目

　　Task 2

　　Independent writing

　　新托福独立写作题目

　　二选一类: Some people believe that spending time away from the people we care about helps us improve our relationships with them, because being away from these people makes us realize how important they are to us. Other people believe that to improve our relationships with people we care about, we should spend as much time with them as possible, because spending time apart can damage or harm a relationship. Which view do you agree with, and why?

　　新托福独立写作思路

　　本次综合写作以及独立写作难度一般。

　　选择近距离相处：1.花时间一起做一些事情才会增进感情;2.能在对方需要需要帮助的时候伸出援手;3.离开对方确实能让我们意识到对方的重要性，但是因为重要我们才更应该陪伴彼此，时刻分享

　　Key sentences:

　　1. staying together，we can have more opportunities to

　　accompany each other to do something interesting, thus enhancing our relationship.

　　2. when either of us is in need of help, another one could give a hand to make us get through the difficulties as soon as possible.

　　3. staying away for some time can make us realize how important the other one is to us. That is why we should

　　spend time together, to share each other’s sorrow and happiness, to be informed of each other’s situation in time.

　　key words & phrase

　　to the heart’s content, a significant step toward, in a good mood, satisfactory, in-depth communication, common ground, follow the route of, uplift one’s spirit, be paved with, be blamed for

　　新托福独立写作范文：

　　It happens that we may carelessly ignore some people’s feeling and suddenly realize how important they are in our life after we lose them. To prevent it from happening, people adopt different strategies, even including keeping distance. In fact, a better way to understand and improve relationship with important people in life is to spend more time with them.

　　Admittedly, by keeping distance with people we believe we have strong ties with, we will make clear how the life is with their absence. Living a life without them, we may fail to perform well and start to make mistakes. The feeling of strong emotional attachment proves they are indispensable. For instance, the end of friendship with an old friend will help us realize without him, we have no one to have a drink together on Friday night. However, in this way, when we finally realize the significance of relationship, we may already do harm to it and it may be too late for us to make up.

　　In fact, by keeping distance, we lack necessary communication that is important for us to better understand each other and consolidate mutual trust. As social animals, we have to deal with various complicated relationship with people around us, including family members and friends. It seems difficult to distinguish who is more essential. Without sharing of thoughts and experiences, we can hardly know whether we have same attitudes towards life, social events, interpersonal relationship, etc.The similarity between us is usually the foundation of a long-term relationship. For example, only through communication can an optimism person find people around them possessing positive attitudes towards troubles, and he needs their encouragement and inspiration.

　　In addition, the absence in life of people we believe important, especially their critical moments, is usually considered by them as disrespect and indifference. This is surely baneful for the relationship. In fact, to strengthen ties with people we care about, we ought to spare more time to accompany them. No matter what people we care about are experiencing, they need accompany from trustworthy ones, such as sharing of their happiness, supporting of their decision, and comforting of their failure. The time spent on accompanying is the most valuable investment one can make and the most precious gift one can give. For instance, to show up in friend’s birthday party, graduation ceremony or promotion party is more important than sending expensive presents.

　　To sum up, to keep distance or to leave far away is definitely not the right choice for us to understand people we care about. Actually, it is more advisable for us to communicate and to accompany.